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⏱ 4 min 7 questions 🌿 Mental Health & Wellbeing

Are You Emotionally Available?

An educational self-reflection quiz exploring how open you tend to be about your feelings with people close to you, and how comfortable vulnerability currently feels.

Please note: This quiz is for educational self-reflection only. It is not a diagnostic tool and cannot identify a mental health condition. If you're struggling, consider speaking with a licensed mental health professional.
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What this quiz covers

Are You Emotionally Available? is a self-reflection quiz exploring how open you tend to be about your feelings in close relationships — with partners, friends, and family. Across 7 everyday scenario questions, your answers add points toward four patterns: high emotional availability, selective availability, being guarded but willing, and emotional guardedness. After all questions, whichever pattern has the highest total is shown as your result, with ties broken by whichever pattern is listed first. Your result describes a tendency in how open you currently are with others, not a fixed trait and not a diagnosis — emotional availability can shift with different people and change over time. This quiz is educational only and is not a substitute for a conversation with a licensed mental health professional.

See all 7 questions
  1. When someone close to you asks how you're really doing, you...
    • Share honestly, including the hard stuff
    • Open up with people you trust most
    • Want to open up, but it takes real effort
    • Usually keep things surface-level
  2. Being vulnerable with someone new feels...
    • Fairly natural, once there's some trust
    • Comfortable with the right person, not everyone
    • Difficult, though you want to get better at it
    • Very uncomfortable, you tend to avoid it
  3. In a close relationship, discussing a hard topic (fears, insecurities), you...
    • Bring it up openly when it matters
    • Share it, usually after some thought
    • Want to share, but often hold back
    • Tend to avoid the conversation
  4. When someone shows you affection or care, you...
    • Receive it warmly and reciprocate easily
    • Accept it, though it depends on the person
    • Feel a little unsure how to respond
    • Feel uncomfortable and tend to deflect it
  5. Trusting a new person with your feelings usually takes...
    • Not very long, if they seem trustworthy
    • A while, but you do open up eventually
    • A long time, and it's a real effort
    • Longer than most people are willing to wait
  6. When you're upset, your instinct is to...
    • Tell someone close what's going on
    • Share with a select few people you trust
    • Want support, but struggle to ask for it
    • Deal with it alone rather than share it
  7. Looking at your close relationships, how open would you say you are emotionally?
    • Very open, people know where they stand with me
    • Open with a few people, more guarded with others
    • I want to be more open, but it's hard
    • Pretty guarded, even with people close to me

Possible results

  • Highly Emotionally Available — You tend to share your feelings openly and let people close to you see the full picture.
  • Selectively Available — You tend to open up fully with a trusted few, while staying more guarded with everyone else.
  • Guarded but Willing — You tend to want closeness and openness, even though vulnerability doesn't come easily.
  • Emotionally Guarded — You tend to keep your feelings close, even in relationships that matter to you.

Frequently asked questions

What is this quiz?
An educational self-reflection quiz about how open you tend to be with your feelings in close relationships.
How is it scored?
Each answer adds points toward one of four patterns. Your highest-scoring pattern after 7 questions is shown as your result, described as a tendency rather than a fixed trait.
Is this scientifically validated?
No. It may be loosely inspired by general ideas about vulnerability and connection in relationships, but this quiz itself is not a diagnostic or clinically validated instrument. Please speak with a licensed professional for a real assessment.